This could make your social anxiety worse.

People who suffer from Social Anxiety Disorder become very adept at avoidance or safety behaviours.

It’s a natural reaction to something that feels bad, and of course, they will do whatever it takes to avoid those situations.  

But unwittingly, they are reinforcing their anxiety and even making it worse. Have a look at the common avoidance behaviours, and see if in trying to minimise exposure, you’re feeding the beast.

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Four standard avoidance techniques that make your social anxiety worse

Avoidance

Some experts say that avoidance is one of the biggest obstacles people with social anxiety face.   True dodging means doing anything not to have to face the feared social situation. That can range from just not turning up to parties and refusing invitations, to changing jobs so as not to have to give presentations or even dropping out of college.

Partial Avoidance

Partial avoidance is a less obvious safety behaviour because the sufferer still seems to be participating while still keeping themselves safe.

These behaviours include:

  • Sitting in the back of the room
  • Keeping your eyes lowered and looking like you’re absorbed in taking notes
  • Protective body language like crossing arms, or avoiding eye contact
  • Daydreaming
  • Drinking or taking drugs.

Escape

Not surprisingly, people use escape as a safety control device for anxiety. As in partial avoidance, the sufferer seems to be participating but gets to a point where the stress is unbearable, and they have to leave. 

This sort of behaviour includes leaving a party or other gathering early, pretending to get an urgent message so they can go or hide in the bathroom.

What can you do?

While such avoidant behaviours help in the short term, they act to reinforce your vulnerability. They keep you in a hypervigilant state, always on the lookout for danger or fearful situations.

Studies show that millions of people suffer from social anxiety disorder. Unfortunately, you can't hide from some social situations-no matter how much you wish you could.

There's nothing wrong with being shy. But if shyness or social anxiety keeps you from building meaningful relationships with others, advancing in your education or career, or simply living your best life.

Avoidant behaviours keep you stuck right in the middle of social anxiety. They stop you from trying and failing, but they also prevent you from working and succeeding.

You won’t learn how to overcome your fears or know that you’re pretty good at giving presentations.  

If you never speak up in meetings, all your good ideas stay in your head. If you hide your light under a bushel, you never get the chance to shine.

An easy gateway technique to start overcoming your social anxiety is to try the five-minute strategy.

When you feel the urge to avoid or run away or shrink down, give yourself five minutes. You can put up with pretty much anything for five minutes, right?

Just give it a try, be kind to yourself and encourage your real self to take it easy

Tony

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