The Most Important Key to Self-Reliance

If you look up self-reliance in the dictionary, it will tell you that it means that you can follow your capabilities, judgment, or resources to be independent. 

To do that, you’ll need to learn to accept responsibility for everything you do without depending on what someone else says, does or thinks.


Solutions Over Problems – A self-reliant person will look for answers to any problems instead of focusing only on issues. Where most people see just dilemmas, they see solutions.

Don’t Blame Others – If you want to be self-reliant, you cannot blame other people for your choices.

It’s a tricky thing to look at a situation and choose the correct part you have control over to do better next time.

Know Where Your Influence Ends – You don’t control everything, and intelligent, self-reliant people understand where their influence ends.

They know that there is no point trying to control those things outside their power. 

Accept the Responsibility That You Own – Being able to admit to doing something wrong, and even doing something good, is a sign of a truly independent person. You don’t need to take the blame if you’re not also taking the credit.

Understand That Life Is Not Fair – Bad things happen to good people. Good things happen to bad people.

There is no real “karma”, but you can do it if you set out to accomplish something; you might have to modify things a little.

Stop Complaining – Learning how to turn negative thoughts into positive thoughts to avoid complaining is something independent people do.

Don’t Take Everything Personally – Sometimes things aren’t about you. Even if you think someone is talking to you about something that hurts, remember that you should not take things personally without understanding it’s meant for you. 

Harness the Power of Intention – When you are ready to do something, you intend to do it. For example, if you want to lose weight, you will use discretion to eat right and focus more to succeed. 

When you can become more self-reliant, you’ll be able to not only stop taking everything personally, but you’ll know exactly how to harness the power of intention to impact your life and others in a big way truly.

That means that self-reliance is all about accepting responsibility when it’s appropriate.